Fertility Woes be Gone: Sometimes a Girl Just Needs a Pity Party

A friend once told me that every once in awhile we all need to throw ourselves a good old fashioned pity party. A real “woe is me,” “life is out to get me,” “absolutely nothing goes right for me,” “I hate everything and everyone” kind of affair.

Now keep in mind, this aint no black tie gala, and usually pity parties are best indulged in by a party of one, or a small group of commiserating comrades. Attire is informal (or sweat pants and favorite cotton t-shirts required), and the biggest party fopaux is uttering one word of positivity or one mention of “look on the bright side.” Such party-goers will be immediately removed from the premises.

Some days we simply need to let ourselves have a good cry, say every bad thought we’ve stored up about ourselves after every failed attempt at conception, and curse with selfish anger the fertile ones walking amongst us.

Without such a valve release, our teapot selves are sure to boil over burning anyone within reach–most especially ourselves. An occasional pity party is not a nice to have; it’s a need to have.

So today I invite you to take time for a pity party. To truly go all out–depressing music and the shades pulled down. Heck, go through an entire box of Kleenex, chocolate, and cookies all at the same time.

Plan the greatest party of the year–a party to celebrate just how much it sucks to have to work day and night to achieve what so many other women and men take for granted. A party to put all other parties to shame–celebrating the awful way our bodies can feel day after day, and our longing for the days before we knew Mount Everest lay in front of us and we were going to have to climb it in slippers.

As they say, go hog wild! And to get you started, one killer recipe for a pity party must have–chocolate chip cookies.

A happy pity party to you all! Tomorrow we will resume our positive attitudes, today it’s ok to just let it all, well, suck.

1 lb. butter
1 ½ c. sugar
2 c. brown sugar
4 eggs
1 ½ T. vanilla
6 c. flour
1 ½ t. salt
1 ½ t. soda
3 c. chocolate chips

Cream butter and sugars. Add eggs and vanilla. Mix well. Add dry ingredients. Cook 10-12 minutes at 350 degrees.


  1. Thanks for this post! It is something people need to understand- sometimes I don’t want your positive thoughts or encouraging words, sometimes I just want to sulk and cry and eat ice cream and watch crappy movies. I think it is a part of healing; you need to have bad days in order to heal and grow. I can’t wait to read more of your posts. Thank you for sharing your story.

  2. […] was a much needed sink into a personal pity party (complete with chocolate chip cookies straight from the oven, a glass of wine, and Kleenex). This […]

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