Sowing a Fertile Garden by Letting go of Your Fascination with the Garden of Others
It can be easy to envy the fertile bodies of others in our lives. To see the radiant roundness of their mid-section, and to get lost in how the proverbial seeds in their lives are growing.
Yet, we too have seeds—seeds that are meant to sprout into a beautiful bounty. However, how can those seeds take root and grow into a flourishing summertime garden if we are too preoccupied with the bounty of our neighbor’s plot of land?
Releasing others to enjoy their gardens, while tilling the soil of our own, releases us from the entanglement of jealousy and hurt that comes with an outward focus.
If we let our hands dig deep into the dirt, mingling there with the earthworms, and if we lift our faces to the sun to smell the fresh scent of basil and lavender wafting through the air, we will notice that it has been some time since we even remembered there was a garden next door.
If we can let go of our fascination with our neighbor’s garden, we will find we have so much more space for our own.
“It’s like everyone’s given seeds that are capable of growing into the garden of their dreams, but no one’s been told they even have them. Then, when they see their neighbor’s garden growing, whether it’s because their neighbor actually found their seeds or accidentally spilled them, there’s a rush to see what’s happening. In fact, whole industries are built around the buying, selling, and trading of other people’s gardens. Agents are hired, sales teams assembled, and sometimes stocks and bonds are issued. Vendors compete, lawyers are hired, and accountants are sued. There are mergers and acquisitions, buyouts and takeovers, and of course 401k’s, company picnics, and vacation days.
There are seeds that grow into private gardens. Seeds that grow into best sellers. And seeds that grow into happy families.
It’s quite a riot, and often good fun, but would you believe that one of the biggest impediments one has to discovering their own seeds, these days, is their fascination with the gardens of others?”