My husband and I are currently engaged in a battle–kind of like those video games he and his nephews are always fighting and shooting each other in.
The battle began, and ended, in the car over a radio station selection. Yes, I’m serious, a radio station selection. As of this moment, we have not spoken to each other at all today.
I can’t help but chuckle a little at the ridiculousness of us both. I mean really, a radio station?
However, anyone who is married, or in a long-term relationship, or really in any relationship at all, knows that it is not about the radio station.
In our lives we hide many things in the Boiler Room–things that we are too afraid to say, or things that we don’t even realize are there until the boiler boils over.
As human beings, and most especially as women, we are connected to all that surrounds us and impacts us–our emotions, with no other release, can also speak to us directly through our bodies. For example, have you ever noticed when you get a bladder infection that you are literally “pissed” and not expressing that anger?
The blessing, and the curse, is that our bodies won’t allow us to ignore what’s in the Boiler Room. The more sensitive our body, the more loudly it can protest. Louise Hay wrote a wonderful book about just this thing called Heal Your Body A-Z: The Mental Causes for Physical Illness and the Way to Overcome Them.
At some point my husband and I will stop being so stubborn, and someone will utter the first word. Because in a marriage, we often need to take many visits to the Boiler Room, and to be willing to show our partner the hidden files we’ve placed there.
In the meantime however, I am left thinking about just what is hidden in the boiler that overflowed over a radio station; and what damage those hidden emotions have wreaked in both of our bodies.