Potholes on the Fertility Road

At times on the road to conscious conception we hit large, jarring potholes. Sometimes we even end up with a flat tire.

It can be easy during these times to pull over to the side of the road, abandon our car, and walk back in the other direction.

Yet we also have the choice of grabbing a hold of hope, changing the tire, and slowly merging back onto the road to motherhood.

Hope, don’t forget to hear its chirping urging you onward. It is only a flat tire, and luckily we have many spares in the trunk.

Keep going.

 Hope is the Thing with Feathers

By: Emily Dickinson

 “Hope” is the thing with feathers
That perches in the soul
And sings the tune without the words
And never stops at all,

And sweetest in the gale is heard;
And sore must be the storm
That could abash the little bird
That kept so many warm.

I’ve heard it in the chillest land
And on the strangest sea,
Yet never, in extremity,
It asked a crumb of me.



  1. A great poem and I stumbled upon it at just the right time. Thanks for all the information! I am a 40 year old woman and now that I have finally found a partner who wants children as much as I do, nature is conspiring against me. My husband was diagnosed with low sperm count as well as poor morphology and motility. My cycle that has been regular as a clock is starting to falter and I may have some anatomical issues due to exposure to DES in my mother’s womb. I am sad about the amount of medical intervention needed in order to become pregnant and discouraged that we will soon have spent $3000 out of pocket, as my group coverage health insurance does not cover fertility testing or treatments. I know that even more funds will be needed to get pregnant or adopt, and I try not to stress myself out working overtime to try and build our savings back up. I dig deep month after month to stay emotionally and mentally positive as I know we will have our long-desire family one way or another. I wouldn’t wish this journey on any woman, but I am glad to find that i am not alone, and that there are people like you that see not only to inform, but to comfort. Thank you!

    1. Donna,
      I am so glad that you found my blog. The journey to consciously conceive can be a long, and at times lonely, one. I hope that you find the information here helpful to you as you navigate the creation of your future family. All the best to you and your partner. And remember, every single day, no matter how difficult, you are one day closer to becoming a mother. All the best!

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