Today, a post for all the men out there–those men who love us women–those men who are the other half to our baby making machine.
I offer one tip for you, just one simple tip.
Please oh please, don’t forget to bring a little Marvin Gaye!
Female Libido – Why the big “O” is more than just ooolala!
By, Gabriela Rosa
You may be trying to conceive, and although some couples report to experience a lull in their sex lives as a result of what can become the ‘trying to conceive’ rollercoaster and/or long standing infertility that they forget to enjoy the ride! It is important to reframe your thoughts around being intimate with your partner.
Try to view it as a way to reconnect with your partner as opposed to another stressful activity (possibly “failed attempt”). It is important to aim to still make sex fun! It certainly is a delightful way of strengthening the intimacy and bond with your significant other. It also relaxes mind and body while helping to ease stress. Even the pleasurable conclusion of the experience plays a role in the reproductive aspect of it all. While the sexual response of a man is physically gratifying for him, its role in conception (ejaculation of sperm) is quite obvious. However, the reproductive value of female orgasm has been the subject of much debate in both biological and psychological studies for decades.
While female orgasm is not necessarily required for conception, it does greatly increase the chances of becoming pregnant. Proper arousal causes an increase in female secretions, and reaching climax increases them further; these fluids make it easier for sperm to reach their destination. Scientific studies now show that the muscle contractions which occur during orgasm create a type of suction, pulling fluids (and sperm) closer to the womb. The enjoyable bodily sensations along with the positive emotional effect on the relationship are incentives to keep doing the deed: imperative for those wishing to conceive.
Getting there is half the fun…
For women in particular, arousal prior to intercourse can be a determining factor in their level of enjoyment. The arousal stage increases blood circulation to the pelvic region (which increases sensitivity), increases secretions and makes intercourse physically comfortable and pleasurable. Embracing, caressing and kissing are comforting and intimate displays of affection which affect emotions and initiate feelings of arousal. Many couples like to employ more explicit foreplay techniques to heighten arousal further.