Infertility & Acceptance: Are you a Saint?

The essence of saintliness is total acceptance of the
present moment, harmony with things as they happen.
A saint does not want things to be different from what they are;
(s)he knows that, considering all factors, they are unavoidable.
(S)he is friendly with the inevitable and, therefore, does not suffer.
Pain (s)he may know, but it does not shatter (her).
If (s)he can, (s)he does the needful to restore the lost balance –
or lets things take their course.”

~ Sri Nisargadatta Maharaj 

I love this quote. I find it to be a wonderful reminder of being present to our lives as they are right here and right now–and of facing our challenges from a place of complete acceptance.

Many have erroneously (in my humble opinion) defined acceptance as giving up, giving in, forgoing the fight. I however do not believe these things are the essence of acceptance.

Acceptance is loving ourselves enough to not allow the pain of a present circumstance to shatter our hearts, our dreams, and our belief in the beauty of tomorrow.

Acceptance means living our dreams through the reality that is our lives today, while seeking balance to provide healing for tomorrow.

Acceptance allows us to savor today’s orange, pink, and purple sunset with a quiet dream in our hearts. When we do we are able to also accept the gifts that will come with the sunrise tomorrow.

When we accept the dis-ease of our conceiving bodies, we accept reality and we release ourselves from fighting against what simply is. In doing so we begin to explore what can be.

By releasing the fight we release our energy, precious energy, that when freed can begin to pave the road to tomorrow–and to a beautiful baby in our arms.


  1. You’re really good. I like the quote too. My mom gave me “The Power of Now” – I guess she’s trying to push the same point. It is very hard, though, to accept the present, but I agree, when that energy is released something amazing can take its place.

    1. It can be very hard to accept the now–especially when it doesn’t feel so great. Yet I suppose we can only change things in our lives if we truly accept them for what they are. When we do we can build plans for the future. When we don’t we stay stuck fighting what can’t be fought. I have not read “The Power of Now,” however heard good things about it. Would love to hear what you think when you read it.

  2. Well put. Acceptance is the hardest thing to come to terms with but when I breath and say this is my reality I can breathe deeply and let go of my expectations and enjoy life for what it is. Maybe not perfectly but with joy that my life is what it is supposed to be at this moment while being ready and open for what the rest of my life has to offer. Thank you.

    1. So very well put, thank you Eunice.

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