Are happy people healthier? How to find happiness amidst infertility struggles

“When it comes to our health,” says Seligman, “there are essentially four things under our control: the decision not to smoke, a commitment to exercise, the quality of our diet, and our level of optimism. And optimism is at least as beneficial as the others.” 

Often those of us on the road to conscious conception, whether from heart or body, forget that our level of optimism can play just as powerful of a role as the numerous paths we take to address our physical selves.

Perhaps this forgetfulness stems from the difficulty of remaining optimistic in the face of disappointments, let downs, fears, and dashed hopes/dreams. Yet such optimism is a powerful tool to employ to help our bodies heal, and to keep our dreams and hopes alive.

One effective method I have found for harnessing optimism is the power of a day dream. You see, within each of hearts–deep down where we must be still and quiet to hear and listen to it’s wisdom–is the knowing of where this journey ends.

When we settle into the stillness that leads us to that answer, and then visit that place often, optimism is the river that will always meander through it’s path.

So perhaps today is a good day to day dream. Those dreams that are most vivid in their color and detail are the ones that will float us closest to the shores of tomorrow.

Take time, dream your dreams in the waking hours of the day, and in so doing float away on optimism river into the world of your future mothering self.

Are Happy People Healthier: New Reasons to Stay Positive

By Nancy Gottesman
O, The Oprah Magazine  |  From the April 2011 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine

Scientists are finding more and more proof of the remarkable way our emotions can affect our immune system.
The powerful link between emotional outlook and physical health is no secret. “I didn’t believe in it when I started out 40 years ago,” says Martin Seligman, PhD, one of the preeminent experts in the field of positive psychology and author of the new book Flourish. “But the data has grown year after year, and it’s become a scientific certainty.”
Good feelings, scientists now know, have healing effects on the body, and researchers studying everything from the flu to HIV continue to find eye-opening evidence that a person’s mind-set can influence her immunity and the rate at which she heals from injuries and illness.
“When it comes to our health,” says Seligman, “there are essentially four things under our control: the decision not to smoke, a commitment to exercise, the quality of our diet, and our level of optimism. And optimism is at least as beneficial as the others.” Scientists don’t yet fully understand the biological mechanisms at work, but they know that negative feelings like stress, sadness, and worry cause a spike in the hormone cortisol, which in turn suppresses the immune system. Here, then, are tips culled from the latest research on how to stay positive—and healthy.
Express Yourself
When you clear your head, good things happen to the rest of you. A study published in Psychosomatic Medicine reported that HIV patients who wrote about their worries for 30 minutes a day four days in a row experienced a drop in their viral load and a rise in infection-fighting T cells. Another study, in the Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, found that breast cancer patients who talked about their feelings regarding cancer had to schedule fewer doctors’ visits for cancer-related problems.
Try Meditative Exercise

We know tai chi has all sorts of benefits, and here’s one more: In research conducted at UCLA, 61 older adults took tai chi classes three times a week, while 61 others attended health education classes. At the end of four months, both groups received a dose of the shingles vaccine—and the tai chi group achieved twice the level of immunity. “It’s likely the meditation component that is causing the effect,” says study author Michael R. Irwin. “Which means it’s possible other forms of meditative exercise, like yoga, would lead to a similar boost.”

Seek Help If You Need It

A study by researchers at the University of Nottingham monitored the rate of healing in 93 people with foot ulcers, a skin injury common in diabetics. After six months, subjects who were clinically depressed and subjects who were not coping well emotionally with their condition showed less improvement. As a result of the findings, the university is developing a therapy program for diabetic patients. “We hope this intervention will help cut the risk of reulceration,” says study author Kavita Vedhara, PhD.

Lean on Your Friends

Sheldon Cohen, PhD, is a psychology professor at Carnegie Mellon University and an expert on the link between social networks and health. In one of his studies, Cohen exposed 276 adults to the common cold virus. He wasn’t surprised to find that smokers were three times more likely to get sick. But Cohen also found that subjects who had the least variety of social relationships fared even worse—they were 4.2 times more likely to catch a cold. One reason people with strong social ties are better at warding off infection may be that they have lower stress levels, Cohen says.

Look on the Bright Side

In another of Cohen’s studies, he assessed 193 subjects to determine their level of positive emotions (including happiness, calmness, and liveliness). Again, he exposed participants to a virus—and found that people who scored low on positive emotions were three times as likely to succumb to the bug. (A few high-scoring participants fell ill, too, but they reported fewer symptoms than the average cold or flu sufferer normally experiences.) What’s intriguing about this phenomenon, says Lara M. Stepleman, PhD, an assistant professor of psychiatry and health behavior at the Medical College of Georgia, is that “we all have the ability to choose an optimistic mind-set. And with practice, we can get better at it.”

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