Infertility and the deserted island: Is there anyone out there?

At times the struggle to conceive can be isolating. We can feel alone, as though no one understands. It can be as if we are abandoned on a deserted island for one.

When we are drowning in the muck of our life’s struggles it can be easy to fall pray to the trap of our minds–all too ready, willing, and able to play out a stage drama behind the bars of Alcatraz.

When we stop however, just long enough to take stock of our lives, we often find that a small push on the prison bars will swing the door wide open and lead us to freedom.

Yes, fertility struggles are hard, and yes they leave us with unfulfilled dreams and dashed promises, yet they do not leave us with an empty hand.

When we have the bravery to expose our soft underbellies, we find that we are surrounded by sisters in a silent struggle toward motherhood.

If you are feeling alone, push the bars of your world open and reach out to other woman on the road to conscious conception through support sites (such as Resolve or Daily Strength), by following blogs (or writing your own), or by opening up to close friends and family about your struggle.

Though days may feel lonely, you are never, ever alone. There are many of us on the island and we are shining search lights over the ocean hoping to lead you home.


  1. hello! just visiting you on your island 🙂 You are not alone, my friend.
    By the way I love that picture.

    1. Heather, I just love your visits. They truly make the island so much more enjoyable to live on 🙂

  2. Hello there,
    I found your blogs purely by accident and now I find myself popping in every day.
    Thankyou for your inspiration blogs, you are such a wonderful writter.
    Rebecca (New Zealand)

    1. Hello Rebecca,
      Thank you so very much for your kind words. I am glad that you found your way here, and so very much appreciate “hearing” your voice. Your support reminds me of how, just when I need it the most, a voice comes out of the quiet to light my path. Over the last few days I was considering closing my blog–feeling perhaps I did not have much to offer (darn self doubt). Thank you, thank you, thank you for your light–reaching me all the way from New Zealand. Oceans apart, yet still on the same tropical island. What a gift!

  3. I have forwarded some of the things you have written to some of my friends also suffering infertility here in NZ, we read them over and over. I even wrote one of your blogs on the back of a vision board I made as it makes me feel so positive.
    I am so pleased you didnt stop writting, there are so many of us trying to look for hope and support on this hard journey to motherhood.
    Thankyou again X

    1. I love that your vision board has intermingled with my words. Now, may your vision be so–for I have no doubt that it will. That beautiful vision is your future, on its way to you.

      Thank you for sharing your vision back with me, which has in turn influenced my own. Yes, this Conscious Conceiving Island is certainly full of some of the most incredible women on the face of the earth!

      Blessings to you, and a launching pad for all of your dreams taking flight into motherhood!

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