Tuesday’s fertility challenge: Undertake an act of extreme self-care

Eastern medicine teaches that we are affected physically and emotionally by every quality with which we come into contact. The general rule is: like increases like. Western medicine recognized this as well. For example, a study published in the journal Science in 2008 demonstrated that qualities like heat and cold affect both our emotional and physical well-being. In one study, people who held a warm beverage for ten to fifteen seconds or evaluated the warmth from a heating pad were more likely to ‘warm’ to strangers and share with them than people who held a cold drink or evaluated the effect of a cold pack. And not only was the ‘warm’ test group more open and generous with strangers, they perceived the strangers as warmer human beings as well. In another test, having subjects plot distant points in a graph actually led them to feel their relatives were distant. This understanding of like increasing like will become important when we start learning how to balance our yin sex hormones and our yang stress hormones

Dr. Claudia Welch, MSOM
Balance Your Hormones, Balance Your Life, 2011, p. 17)

Over the coming weeks (perhaps months) I will be sharing with you what I am learning from the wisdom of Dr. Claudia Welch, and Dr. Wendy Warner, regarding the healing we as women can experience, which includes healing in our fertility, by attending to the balance of our hormones.

For women, hormones are the essence of who we are. And for women facing fertility struggles, almost all of us (if not all) are dealing with hormonal imbalances–exaggerated by any prescription hormones we may take.

I hope you will find this information as eye opening as I have, and I hope that you will find new avenues to explore for healing your body, and your fertility.

Today I took my first step back toward balance.

Though I had previously achieved balance through the help of herbs and acupuncture, I fell off the band wagon like a drunken sailor high on responsibilities and low on a bankroll. When that happened I realized that I no longer wanted a band-aid, I wanted deep healing I could maintain throughout my life.

So today my extreme act of self-care, which quite honestly filled me with apprehension and took me weeks to finally commit to, was signing up for 12 months of massage (one massage per month).

I know, this seems like such a silly small thing, yet while I will give to others without looking back, I often find myself scraping the bottom of my well, filled with guilt, for a few drops of water to nourish my own soul.

So for the next 12 months, as I finish my dissertation and PhD, I will practice extreme self-care by forgoing gifts to others, dinners out, or driving distances to accommodate schedules beyond my own.

For the next 12 months I will completely let go at least one time per month using massage to move the stuck places, disband the negative places, and fill the places left open with healing.

Like attracts like.

What will you do today, this week, this month, this year, to attract greater balance and healing into your fertile space?

The time to begin is now.


  1. That’s very interesting (the quote). And enjoy the massage. That is my ultimate treat for myself (haven’t done that enough lately…)
    Wow, you are doing a PHhD! No wonder you write so well! What are you doing your PhD on?

  2. Hi Heather,
    I am finishing (finally) my PhD in Education with a specialization in Higher Education (I love those young, open, 20-something minds 🙂 I believe you are a teacher as well? Young, open, still little minds right? What lucky kids to have such a fantastic educational start!

    1. sounds very interesting.. 🙂
      Yip I’m teaching as well… but I think I prefer writing 🙂

      1. Well then I say write, write, write!! And in honor of that, here’s a cute blog post another writer friend of mine sent me called “Date a Girl who Reads”


  3. […] Today I share some further insight from Dr. Claudia Welch’s book Balance Your Hormones, Balance Your Life: Achieving Optimal Health and Wellness through Ayurveda, Chinese Medicine, and Western Science. To read the first in my series from this book click <HERE>. […]

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