Infertility and the body: Where are you holding your life’s story?

Within our bodies lies the story of our lives: the hurts, the anger, the frustration, the let-downs, the depression, the joy, the happiness, the grieving. All of our emotions make a home in our bodies.

So when our bodies have aches, pains, discomforts, dis-ease, and even imbalances that lead to infertility, it is a conversation our bodies are having with us about those emotions that have been stored deep within them.

Many times western medicine prescribes treatments that serve to quiet that conversation. They hush the murmur of our body and lull it back to sleep. The only problem with this approach is that somewhat like a sleeping giant, eventually our bodies are going to wake up again. And normally when they do, they are bigger, louder, and more persistent than they were the first time around.

Sometimes however, we are not ready to listen when our bodies first begin to speak. That is ok, it is not the time. Yet when we are ready, there is much that can be learned.

By becoming aware of how your body feels—what hurts, when it hurts, what has happened before you felt the discomfort, where tension settles, and what makes it lift away—you come into intimate conversation with yourself, and your life story.

For example, you may notice that when you get angry you feel a burning in your stomach (right in the pit of your stomach in the moment that emotion overtakes you). Later in the day you may then notice that you have digestion problems or your appetite is either large or small.

You may also begin to see the emotions that have been stuck, stuffed, or all tied up inside of you, and how they connect to things like endometriosis.

For me, the event that brought me into conversation with my body was the discovery of a large fibroid. That fibroid taught me how I had stuffed my creativity, how I had been very stuck in my life, in my relationship, and how all of that stuck energy and stuffing of emotion wound up in that fibroid. By listening and learning I have remained fibroid-free ever since.

As you begin to turn your attention to your body, slowly your life’s story will unfold. With time you will learn to hear what your body is telling you, and to work to heal the emotions that have been trapped within it.

When you do you may find symptoms you have experienced for years beginning to ease, and your intuition guiding you to professionals who can help you to release things that may still be stuck, or held very tightly, within you.

A few books that may help to get you started in understanding your body symptoms are: You Can Heal Your Life (Gift Edition) and Heal Your Body A-Z: The Mental Causes for Physical Illness and the Way to Overcome Them

Your beautiful body is holding the story of your life; it is the one and only thing that will be with you for the entirety of your journey. When you enter into partnership and conversation with your body you begin working together to heal the imbalances and to restore your fertile self.


  1. Hi Shannon. I loved this post. Sometimes I think we really are on the same wavelength.
    I never thought of the symbolism of my thyroid. Maybe I was storing emotions there. I guess the challenge is to listen and learn. I also have that book by Louise Hay but there are also others – Deppie Shapiro (Your body speaks your mind) and Deflefsen (The healing power of illness – it is really good).
    I have written 9 ways to deal with pain here: – you might be interested.

    1. Hi Heather, thank you for sharing your resources–always appreciated!

  2. I have been listening to my body and taking a new path with my fertility, after 2 failed ivfs and little response to the invasive drugs that were used, I have decided to go the natural way.

    I achieved my first pregnancy last week… it was short lived and I had a chemical pregnancy, but to concieve was a milestone in itself…

    So gluten/diary free, accupunture, naturopath, meditation and finding balance will hopefully get me over the line. Louise hays book is brilliant to keep positive after so many dissapointments.

    1. Rebecca, what a journey you have been on! I truly commend you for your determination to listen to your body, and for it’s whisper back to you. All the best, what a wonderful team, and great tools, it sounds like you have found to surround and support yourself with.

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  4. this speaks to me on so many levels: as a mother, a wife, a teacher, a yoga therapist and a woman healing from the wounds of childhood trauma. good thoughts.

    1. I am glad that it reached you where you were in your life’s path. All the best to you on your journey Kelly.

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