Infertility and how we keep ourselves stuck: When something is lost, do you let it go?

“The world is a looking glass. It gives back to every [wo]man a true reflection of [her] own thoughts.  Rule your mind or it will rule you.”


I have seen it time and time again–people stuck. It’s heartbreaking really. Freedom is just on the other side of letting go, yet people grasp with all of their might, to what has already gone.

And there they stay stuck.

I have also had people ask me many a time how it is that I landed the “perfect job that no one thought existed,” or how I found the “perfect doctor at the perfect time,” or even how “doors always seem to open for me when I say that I’m ready to walk through them.”

No, it is not magic. And those of you who have read my blog for some time know that I do not fall into the “ridiculously lucky” category. The demise of two years of my life’s work in one second of time was proof positive.

So what is it? Why do things appear on the outside to line up so perfectly? Have I somehow been given some rare “manifestation gene?”

Fortunately, no. There is nothing special or unique about me. What I have done, anyone can do.

When something is lost, I let it go.

You see every closing is in actuality an opening. Every ending is really a beginning. And every defeat is nothing more than a reset on the time clock for a new game.

When things in your life end–sometimes abruptly and painfully–you have two choices. Either you can fight with reality, stay stubborn and stuck. Or, you can embrace the new beginning and wait with eager anticipation to see what comes next.

There are seeds that were planted in each of us. Seeds that are our brilliance meant to sprout just at the right time, with the just the right amount of struggle and triumph. And because all that we can see is what is in front of us now, and we often easily forget what is behind us now, we are never really able to glimpse how those seeds are taking root for what lies ahead of us.

So today I encourage us all to let go when something is lost. Because when we do, our seeds grow just a little bit taller, pushing just a little bit closer to the surface, and leaving us just a little bit nearer to reaching our destiny.

When something is lost, let it go; because only then can you open your hand to receive what is coming to you in its place. And I guarantee you, there is always something coming to fill the empty space. Always.

Let it go.


  1. Beautifully said…..for myself I find letting go to be one of the most difficult things ever…..

    1. I very much agree Jen, it can be hard. Yet, when I do, I find myself feeling finally free–lighter, happier, and turned to face the sunshine of what is to come. Perhaps the key is to believe, and know, that something beautiful IS to come.

  2. Reblogged this on fertilitydoll and commented:
    One of the best blog posts I’ve ever read on infertility.

    “You see every closing is in actuality an opening. Every ending is really a beginning. And every defeat is nothing more than a reset on the time clock for a new game.”

  3. Absolutely true. And I like your new header.

  4. Thanks Healther, it’s the header I used for our adoption website–liked it so much I used it here 🙂

  5. Spot on. I too choose to see life like you do, although it’s not easy and requires effort, a lot of deep thought and honesty at times. But I’m getting there, and reading your post made me realise that I am absolutely doing the right thing. Well written.
    I’m now following you so look forward to future posts 🙂
    All the best Jodie x

    1. Thank you Jodie, I look forward to further sharing of outlooks. Welcome!

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