Category Reframing Our Fertility

You Cannot Find Peace By Avoiding Life

If you have ever been in Grand Central Station in New York you have seen the pigeons. They are the birds who are missing toes, cut off in their attempt to climb the escalator to reach the light. Sometimes we too can feel like those wounded pigeons. Life has been hard on us, we have lived […]

Infertility, 12-21-12, and the end of the world: why am I still here?

It is hard to imagine anyone who has not heard the hype about the world ending, along with the Mayan calendar, on December 21, 2012. So  if the world ended yesterday, why am I still here? Perhaps December 21st was an opportunity not to end our existence, but rather to end the selfish ways that we live our […]

Infertility: However mean your life is, rise up to meet it and live it

However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names – Henry David Thoreau Tonight my husband was talking about seeing the “hand of God” (or whatever you may refer to as that which is greater than you, your higher power). My husband then proceeded to […]

Infertility: What is there to be grateful for?

“Yeah, but I can go to the yoga and wine tasting afternoon with my favorite girlfriends!” Many a time I have found myself wondering just what there is for me to be grateful for when it comes to infertility. Sure, I believe that gratitude is the key that opens doors to happiness and abundance in […]

Understanding the impossibly illogical: “Snookie” from Jersey Shore can have a baby, but I can’t?

Well if a picture is worth a thousand words, need I say more? I have lost count of the number of times I have heard, read, or seen the impossibly illogical nature of just who can procreate and who cannot. What sense can be made in a world when “Snookie,” gets pregnant and so many […]

Infertility & the daughter I haven’t met yet: There is a red thread

The Invisible Red Thread “An invisible red thread connects those destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstances. The thread may stretch or tangle, but never break.”  – Ancient Chinese Proverb “The Red Thread of Destiny is a belief that comes from an old Chinese legend. Also known as the red thread of fate […]

Infertility and the dream of motherhood: Is the dream too big to believe in?

The presumption, at all times and under all circumstances, should always be that you are good enough, worthy enough, and lovable enough. And that you are exactly the right kind of person, in the right place, at the right time. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have been instilled with such dreams in the first place. -TUT There […]