Tag Archives: Adoption

Infertility, adoption, control: Why we choose the fun house over the ferris wheel

One thing I have learned well through the journey of infertility, as well as adoption, is that control, is a complete illusion. Perhaps the difference for those of us who have journeyed down these paths is that we no longer have any illusion about the illusion of control. You see, control is a bit like […]

Infertility, Adoption, Loss and Christmas: The Bittersweet

It is the wee hours of Christmas morning. The time when the excitement of Christmas Eve wanes to allow in the light of Christmas Day. It is the time when Santa is making his slide down the chimney, and exhausted parents put together bikes and doll houses before passing out, only to be awoken by the […]

Adoption: Turtles Come, Turtles Go

Here’s what I know after four years of failed attempts to start a family: When you pray for strength, you get opportunities to find the reserve within you When you open your heart, you make a difference to someone else, which will help you when your own heart gets broken in the process Every prayer […]

When you dangle your toes from the ledge and swing your arms, it’s only a matter of time before you fall

The question is whether when you fall you take flight to the sky, or you soar into the depths of the canyon. But no matter what, the momentum is going to take you over the ledge. So too with infertility and adoption, when we dangle our hearts over the ledge of possibility, and when we […]

Don’t Stop Believing (And Not Just for Journey’s Sake)

“Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul, and sings the tune without the words, and never stops at all.” – Emily Dickinson Today I began Deepak Chopra’s 21 Day Meditation Challenge. And today’s centering thought was one that truly resonated with me “Today I am open to the presence of miracles.” This meditation […]

Infertility & adoption: when sperm doesn’t meet egg, when profile doesn’t meet match

“You were made that way for a reason, you just need to figure out what it is.” – Anthony Robles We are still waiting to hear back on the recent opportunity to have our profile shown, however during the wait I’ve been thinking a lot about the similarities between infertility and adoption. Perhaps more precisely, […]

Infertility Kaleidoscope: Four Months & Bouncy Balls

Last week was a bit of a tough week for me; tough like a rattlesnake bite in the middle of a desert. Yet, I survived. And today, when I look through my kaleidoscope of experiences, I can see a few things I couldn’t see before. I see four months and a bouncy ball. So today […]