Tag Archives: Reframing our Fertility

Infertility: may it be soon, and may it be forever

Recently one of my most dear friends relayed to me her every day prayer for my husband and me “may it be soon, and may it be forever.” No matter where you are on your fertility journey this one prayer is the one silently uttered in the hearts of each person, and so eloquently expressed by […]

Duck, Duck, Infertility GOOSE!

I thought that when we began the process of adopting, when we made peace with the big IF, when we finished the huge pile of paperwork and readied for our home study, that I would begin to feel more like the “others.” You know, the ones for whom infertility is a remote concept that they […]

Infertility: However mean your life is, rise up to meet it and live it

However mean your life is, meet it and live it; do not shun it and call it hard names – Henry David Thoreau Tonight my husband was talking about seeing the “hand of God” (or whatever you may refer to as that which is greater than you, your higher power). My husband then proceeded to […]

Infertility: What is there to be grateful for?

“Yeah, but I can go to the yoga and wine tasting afternoon with my favorite girlfriends!” Many a time I have found myself wondering just what there is for me to be grateful for when it comes to infertility. Sure, I believe that gratitude is the key that opens doors to happiness and abundance in […]

Understanding the impossibly illogical: “Snookie” from Jersey Shore can have a baby, but I can’t?

Well if a picture is worth a thousand words, need I say more? I have lost count of the number of times I have heard, read, or seen the impossibly illogical nature of just who can procreate and who cannot. What sense can be made in a world when “Snookie,” gets pregnant and so many […]

Infertility & the daughter I haven’t met yet: There is a red thread

The Invisible Red Thread “An invisible red thread connects those destined to meet, regardless of time, place, or circumstances. The thread may stretch or tangle, but never break.”  – Ancient Chinese Proverb “The Red Thread of Destiny is a belief that comes from an old Chinese legend. Also known as the red thread of fate […]

Infertility and the dream of motherhood: Is the dream too big to believe in?

The presumption, at all times and under all circumstances, should always be that you are good enough, worthy enough, and lovable enough. And that you are exactly the right kind of person, in the right place, at the right time. Otherwise, you wouldn’t have been instilled with such dreams in the first place. -TUT There […]